Welcome to fascinated mother. Below are some of the powerful habits that you can implement to add ease, successful compounding effects and daily luxury into your life as a mother, woman, lady or girl.
Achieving daily luxurious living doesn’t necessarily mean going out to spend your money, but rather, finding ways to make life a little bit more beautiful right now, right here, today and on a daily basis.
Arise with the sun and the birds. Waking up early
Waking up an hour or 2 before your household/responsibilities will give you time for structure, successful planning, peace, ease and quiet. It is very important to have time allocated for you, so that you can be in touch with yourself, meditate, pray and structure your day.
The only way you can achieve a peaceful slow morning, especially in adulthood, or you have children, a job, at school, is waking up early. Waking up early helps you ease into the day without the unnecessary pressure. This makes it nice and easy to enjoy and command your day.
You get to command your day and set expectations for it. I used to view morning routines as a chore but now it’s a hobby, a chance to connect with myself, command my day and pray for the kind of day that I expect. You can do this by using beautiful verses from the bible: such as Psalm 143:8
Enjoying the good things you already have while practicing gratitude .
Make yourself a beverage in your favorite mug. See those mugs you save for guests? When you begin to use those, it becomes the start of seeing yourself worthy. It puts you in a state of gratitude and abundance. Do not underestimate this.
It’s very important that you start using the good that you have, otherwise it will all be sitting there
until someone comes to enjoy it. Make yourself a nice cup of coffee, tea or water. Enjoy these things on a day to day basis as it’s the little things that add up.
Connecting with friends and family. Build Meaningful relationships and inner circle
Add meaningful relationships and people into your life. Some of my best friends are my mom, sisters and other loving and moms.
When you have meaningful friends, you get to pour into each other’s cup, and the thing you
thought you were facing alone, you’ll be pleasantly surprised to find some of them have an idea of how you can
go about it . Such moments add ease and peace into your life. You can be their shoulder to lean on, and they can be yours. You pray for each other, talk with each other and most importantly you hold each other accountable and go through your goals.
I love this about my siblings and friends. They add into your cup so you can do the
same for them.
Journaling and writing down the important to do list for a successful day.
Journaling and writing your thoughts and dreams down is an amazing way to add ease into your life baby. The bible says, write the vision down and make it plain in Habakkuk 2:2.
We tend to underestimate this but it not only helps to structure your day and set goals, but also clears your mind. You don’t have to use the journal brand that I use, any notebook you have around works.
Cultivate hobbies that entertain and develops your mind as an individual.
Find hobbies that fulfil and enrich your life now. Do not wait for the perfect day to start doing these things. Some of the hobbies you can start with are;
a) Going to the library.
I know it’s very basic but some people don’t go to the library even when they have the access to them. As a child, I loved reading books, but didn’t have access to the library. I either had to ask my parents to buy me a book
or exchange them with my siblings and friends.
My child has access to the library because of where I live now. So if you live in a place with
access to one, go there, you don’t even have to check out the books for the first time, feel the
environment. There is something about it that opens your mind, takes you out of the house.
You don’t have to spend money on such occasions. It’s important, amazing and creates good
habits for kids.
b) Start going to the art gallery.
You don’t have to spend money in these places if you do not wish to. Entrance can be
free, look around, google and find out places near you. Get dressed, visit galleries and experience these things.
If you don’t experience them now, then when are you going to do it? Visit the nice shops and
local places. This is a chance to collect memories and expand your mental space.
c) Sewing.
Personally I love sewing as this helps to express ourselves while breaking the financials barriers that are commonly found the fashion and style world. I’ve been making clothes for my daughter, my personal wardrobe, home decor and business. Learn hobbies that enrich your life.
Keeping your house clean, baby I love this!
Get rid of the things that you no longer use. Donate that which can be donated and trash the ones that are no
longer usable, because when you hoard these things in your house, they act as fillers.
A cluttered place tends to make me anxious, so what I like doing are little purges; when I have things
that am no longer using, clothes I like but not in my style or don’t work for my body anymore, I give
them out and bless them so that whoever comes across these items may enjoy if it’s for them.
Fresh bed linen. Set a routine to clean and switch the bed linens regularly. It’s not only good for your
skin but you’ll get to praise the Lord while you are at it. Keep your place and house clean.
Cooking a heartfelt meal. Expose yourself to the art of fine dining and cooking at home.
I love a fabulous meal. Learn new recipes and treat them as fun. Do not beat yourself up if you don’t make the exact meal that you wanted. Treat this as a hobby, a source of relaxation , learn these
new things and if you make the fabulous meal, serve them in your nice dishes, sit at the table and if you
don’t have a table, your normal place will work just fine.
Bless your meal and make it your business to savor it.
Selfcare and personal grooming is another way you can add luxury, softness, femininity and ease into your life.
Oh! I absolutely love this one! I’ve looked down on this one for such a long time. Make it your business to look
good and impress yourself, be fascinated with how you look. If you have perfume, spray
it, smell nice and when you pass by a mirror you say, “Lord you did this, I thank you, what a fabulous
day.” It adds into your life and the life of your loved ones.
As a mom, there was a moment in my life where I really didn’t care about it but I came to realize that I
love looking good and my daughter loves it too. She sees that and it impacts her. As a woman, you have
that power of impact. Dress nicely, feel good about it and when in doubt , read Psalms 139:14 which says I will
pray for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Let this be your mantra.
Shop where you can, learn about your body, its strengths, what works for you or doesn’t and from a
professional’s dressmaker, seamstress and designer, I can tell you that some of the fabrics can make you
feel very luxurious straight away are Silks, Linen, wool, High quality cotton. Some of these fabrics are mentioned in the bible .
Polyester can be an optional fabric to look for. The downside to this type of fabric is that they don’t last long, but if you find high quality it might work. Look into these fabrics.
If you are into romantic, fantasy clothing, start with good quality lace. Treat yourself and play with
clothes. My grandmamma used to say, “do not take days for granted”, if you have a nice dress that you
could wear, go for it because nobody told you that you’ll have tomorrow. Enjoy the goodness now and
give thanks to God.
Good music and peaceful ambiance.
Find a way to enjoy good music. I used to dance a lot when I was in college but these days
I’ve grown into the soothing music like jazz. When cooking, set an ambient tone in your house, cook
with music you enjoy.
If you have access to the internet, you can easily find these on YouTube. I like jazz
music and right now it’s Christmas season of course. You’ll find these soothing music with beautiful
scenic backgrounds.
Peace of mind must be a priority, without which we suffer from mental displeasure, low self-esteem and so much more.
Peace of mind cannot be surpassed by anything. Find ways to create and have your peace . Set boundaries and respect them. You have to respect other people’s boundaries and pick your fights. This doesn’t mean you let
them go or slide, it just means you know what matters and focus on that.
I’ll give you a secret that works for me. After waking up, I command my mornings with
the word of God. My favorite is from Psalms 143:8 which say, “Let the morning bring word of your
unfailing love for have put my trust in you; show me the way I should go, for to you I lift my soul.”When I start my mornings like that, I go through my day looking for wonderful and beautiful moments because it is the day that the Lord has made and I will rejoice ad be glad in it. I look for the good in my day and won’t be getting into fights, pray when I leave my house, whenever the kids are leaving and when in the house. Peace is very important.
Lukela, The Fascinated Mother.
Until next time, have a lovely day. I hope you’ve found something meaningful from this. stay blessed,
beautiful and live intentionally.
Lukela, The Fascinated Mother.